How to Be More Successful in Life
By: Elizabeth B. Lewis- Life Coach/ Dating Consultant/ Author/ Speaker
As many of you know, I read a lot and love to share what I’ve read and learned. I know my friends who work full time can’t read as much as they’d like, so when I read things I think would resonate with others, I like to write about it. These ideas don’t only come from me, but I’ll also credit Simon Somlai, John Maxwell, Tai Lopez and Stephen Covey.
LIFE—such a short time we are here. Most people try to find ways to be more successful in work, relationships, etc. Here is a list of 15 ways I’ve gathered (through my reading and own experiences), that I think make one more successful in life.
- READ and always be willing to learn. Once we get out of school, some are happy to never crack a book again…. but one MAJOR way to keep growing, is to read. There are so many great ideas/authors out there. We don’t just “arrive” after reading a certain number of books. When I worked full time I couldn’t find (or make) the time to read much. In retirement, I can’t read fast enough. I love the tidbits I’m learning (and sharing). I find ways to apply the ideas with which I resonate.
- Network- whether in business, the dating world or just a person who likes to meet new/interesting people—get out there, meet and share. You’ll meet people that will add value to YOUR life; and you to THEIRS. We are all here on this earth in this small space at the same time. Why not meet (and help) as many as we can while we’re here?
- Make goals- a dear friend taught me to actually write down about 10 goals a year. It’s OK if you don’t master/accomplish them all (don’t beat yourself up over it) but you’re at least striving to hit them all. Each year I make 10 goals and accomplish 8-9 of them. They’re attainable and are focused on how I can help others, as well as my family and business.
- Get out of debt- if you’re out of debt, manage your resources well. No matter how much money we have, we are still to be good stewards of it. Don’t overspend. Live within (or below) your means. Don’t forget to give a portion away (a tithe, a charitable donation, etc).
- Wake up a little earlier each day. In 2014 the life expectancy was 78.6 years. We spend 25 years of that sleeping! If you awoke 1 hour earlier each day, that’s 365 extra hours which equals an extra 2 weeks per year. Maybe use that hour for personal development (devotional, reading, meditating, or exercising).
- Prioritize and plan- Look at your day and do the most important thing first. It’s crazy that the more we have to do, the more we accomplish. But it’s true. Make your list and git-r-dun.
- Diet and exercise – successful people are conscious about refueling their bodies with the food it needs. Exercise comes in all forms and as busy as successful people are, they seem to find a way to include at least a little exercise.
- Visualization- there are many books and videos about this.
Raise your frequency to positive thoughts as well as visualizing where you want to go. However you perceive yourself sets the state for your accomplishments.
- Sharpen your character- can we always improve here? Of course. Some earnestly improve while others talk a big talk. Our actions speak louder than our words. Set for yourself a list of standards that are important to you. Then figure out ways to LIVE these standards without wavering. Maybe find an accountability partner to help you (you can help your partner, as well) stay the course.
- Gratitude- I’ve written a whole blog on this one before. (Scroll down the page to find it). Those who truly live in the state of gratitude (however they so choose to practice this) are truly happier. You can’t live in self-pity while being grateful.
- Lift others up and add VALUE to people. This is what John Maxwell teaches in his book Intentional Living (Choosing a Life that Matters). My way of taking action with this is I have a reminder in my phone that goes off at 7:30 am that says, “Who can I add value to today?” At 9:00 p.m. I have another reminder that says, “How did I add value to others today.” This just makes me more intentional about thinking about how I can help others. Think of ways YOU can add value to others.
- Habit Stacking- this idea comes from Simon Somlai. Habit Stacking is the process of incrementally implementing new, powerful habits in your day-to-day life. These daily, high-leverage tasks will “stack up” over time which will in turn improve your “success-level.” (Habits like reading, networking, goal setting, serving, etc).
- Get a mentor. Mentors will encourage and accelerate your learning curve. Included can be books, seminars or a real life person. Tai Lopez talks about the law of 33%, which states that you should spend;
- 1/3 of your time with people below your level (the ones you mentor)
- 1/3 of your time with people on your level (close friends)
- 1/3 of your time with people above your level (mentors)
Maybe make a list of these people in your life and see how you’re doing with this.
- Spend time wisely. How often have you been on Facebook, a dating site, watching TV or playing a game and you look up and realize 2 hours have passed? That’s time you’ll never get back! Even adults have to put boundaries around our time to be more productive.
- Last, imagine your funeral. Stephen Covey gives us a great reminder.
In your mind’s eye, see yourself going to the funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlor or chapel, parking the car, and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice the flowers, the soft organ music. You see the faces of friends and family you pass along the way. You feel the shared sorrow of losing, the joy of having known, that radiates from the hearts of the people there.
As you walk down to the front of the room and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral, three years from today. All these people have come to honor you, to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.
As you take a seat and wait for the services to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers. The first is from your family, immediate and also extended —children, brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents who have come from all over the country to attend. The second speaker is one of your friends, someone who can give a sense of what you were as a person. The third speaker is from your work or profession. And the fourth is from your church or some community organization where you’ve been involved in service.
Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of husband, wife, father, or mother would like their words to reflect? What kind of son or daughter or cousin? What kind of friend? What kind of working associate?
What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements would you want them to remember? Look carefully at the people around you. What difference would you like to have made in their lives? – 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
So, it’s good to every so often reflect and evaluate how you’re doing in this thing called life. Again, we’re only here for a VERY, VERY short time. We need to use all the talents we have been given (because God doesn’t need them in Heaven). Go forth, figure out your passions… and talents… and live your life to the fullest… engage.
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