25 Things We Need to Do/Think About After Turning 50    by: Elizabeth Lewis

25 Things We Need to Do/Think About After Turning 50 by: Elizabeth Lewis

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25 Things We Need to Do/Think About After Turning 50

by: Elizabeth Lewis

Life Coach/Relationship Coach/Author/Speaker


After turning 50, many start reflecting on their lives. Looking from where they came (all the mistakes, lessons, successes) and knowing that we now have less time to live than we’ve already lived. I thought I’d share some ideas I’ve thought about (some of these would apply to any age but even a better reflection on the 2nd half of life).


  1. If you stopped learning today, who would you want to be more like the rest of your life?
  2. Are you living “on purpose?” If not, it’s not too late. Examine your daily activities and see how many hours are on purpose. If you have too many things on your plate, maybe hire a life coach to help guide you through this process.
  3. Be thinking about your “encore” career—the “for fun” job you want to do in retirement. Start brainstorming ideas of what that might be.
  4. Let go of things that don’t “connect” to your life purpose? (Are you living your life purpose). Life purpose is different than living on purpose. Living on purpose is making your hours matter during the day ensuring you’re doing the things that are important to you. Living your life purpose is doing what you know God put you on Earth to do.
  5. Keep reading and learning! Fill your brain with new information and positive ways of thinking.
  6. Stop looking for ways to be offended. Let people be who they are and you be who you are. It’s no reflection on you.
  7. Think a little (or a lot) less about yourself and more about others.
  8. Bring kindness back and be the example of how to be kind always. None of us is perfect but to be a little more like Jesus every day is a good idea. Wayne Dyer said, “Research has shown that a simple act of kindness directed toward another improves the functioning of the immune system and stimulates the production of serotonin in both the recipient of the kindness and the person extending the kindness. Even more amazing is that persons observing the act of kindness have similar beneficial results. Imagine this! Kindness extended, received or observed beneficially impacts the health and feelings of everyone involved! “
  9. If someone doesn’t like you, this has NOTHING to do with you. As long as you are doing your best to stay aligned with your Source and what you know if good and right for you, that’s what you have control.
  10. Make goals yearly—hit as many as you can—live intentionally.
  11. Comparison (at any age) kills contentment. Stop comparing!
  12. Take the lessons learned from past mistakes—wrap words around shame (if you’re feeling shame) and today is a new day to be a better YOU! Seriously, whatever you put in your brain WILL be what will happen to you. Whether you’re aware of it or not. So be aware what you’re feeding it. Feed it with goodness and positivity. If negativity creeps in, flip the switch and turn it into a positive. Is it easy to do? Yes. Is it easy not to do? Yes. Which will you choose?
  13. Keep engaging in REAL life. Step away from social media/computer and keep engaging with others. Life experiences and laughter cures a lot of ailments.
  14. Who was your mentor when you were 20, 30, 40? Now, who can YOU mentor and pour your wisdom into?
  15. With now adult children, how can you/we be the best supporter? We can still be a good example to them as we live our lives, but we no longer have control of theirs. Remain curious—still walk beside them and you can still be a safe place to fall (when they fall). They will fall because we all fall. Love them through it (instead of lecturing them through it).
  16. Health—we DO all know we’re going to die, right? Maybe tomorrow. Maybe in 50 years. I think we sometimes forget this because we’re shocked when someone dies. But we don’t always think about how every morsel of food and every drop of liquid we put in our bodies matters. “But it’s a special occasion?!” There always seems to be a “special” occasion to eat (or drink) poorly. Heck…. Every day is a special occasion because we are still here! Hard to do? Yes. Easy to do? Yes. Make a slight change.
  17. Speaking of dying…. Since we all know that none of us get out of here alive, most know to keep up with doctor checkups, annual exams, etc. But it’s a good idea to remind/encourage this. Some live in fear of the unknown and they’d rather not know there is cancer or something looming around in their bodies… but there are just too many medical advancements out there to be afraid… SO much can be done. I know sometimes nothing can be done. A blood clot, aneurysm, sudden wrecks, etc…. but we can all do our part of doing the preventative care we know to do. The older we get, the more we need to stay on top of this. Get an accountability partner?
  18. How much intentional quiet time do you allow yourself? Intentional SILENCE? I’m not talking about when you’re in the shower or driving alone (although if that’s all you can allow that’s better than nothing). You can’t know the meaning of your life until you are connected to the power that created you. Another Dyer thought (who is a big proponent of meditation). “Meditation is the only way you can grow. There is no other way out. Because when you meditate, you are in silence. You are in thoughtless awareness. Then the growth of awareness takes place.” (This is one thing I need to start doing more).
  19. Judgment…. have we not learned by now that judgment is not a good thing? It lowers our spirit/energy and many times reflects who WE are on the inside. Be unattached to all who come into your life by not demanding that they stay, go, or appear, at your whim. Let other people be who they are. You be who you are. No need to judge them as right or wrong.
  20. I’ve written/spoken about this one before. We are the average of the 5 people we are around the most. Who do you spend the most time with? If you want to be a better you, make sure some of those people are those you’d like to be more like. Tai Lopez talks about the law of 33%, which states that you should spend;

1/3 of your time with people below your level (the ones you mentor)

1/3 of your time with people on your level (close friends)

1/3 of your time with people above your level (mentors)

Maybe make a list of these people in your life and see how you’re doing with this.

  1. Look for ways to add value to others…. EVERY DAY! How will you remember to do this? I put a reminder on my phone at 9:00 a.m. that says, “How will you add value today?” AND at the end of the day at 9:00 p.m. that says, “How did you add value today?” This alone makes me REMEMBER to be thinking about how I can add value to others every day!
  2. If you have 5-7 speakers speak at your funeral (someone from every facet of your life), what would you want them to say about you? Start doing THOSE things (or get back to those things that you know are truest about you).
  3. If you’re still in debt…. Get out of debt- if you’re out of debt, manage your resources well. No matter how much money we have, we are still to be good stewards of it. Don’t overspend. Live within (or below) your means. Don’t forget to give a portion away (a tithe, a charitable donation, etc).
  4. Whatever you are giving away— IS what you’re getting back. Any thought of depreciation you have weakened yourself in some form…. lowered your energy. If you can figure out a way to change this thought to appreciation you will raise your energy. When you can do that, you’re making more conscious contact w God. Then you can access it more readily.
  5. If you still have GOD questions, it’s never too late to explore this a little more. Maybe you had a bad church experience? All churches are not bad. (Most are filled with sinners and broken people who just want to be better). Maybe you had a life event knock you down and you couldn’t see or feel God? (So you started doubting). Maybe you were not raised in the church and you just never explored beyond that in adulthood? Maybe it’s overwhelming and too vast to comprehend (I can see why one might feel that way). Wherever you are… there are SO many people that you can talk to to explore this. You WILL die and your soul WILL go somewhere. If you don’t know where it’ll go, worth talking to someone about it? (My opinion, of course).


If you’d like to explore any of these thoughts any further, I’d be happy to be your life coach. I give a 15 min. free consultation to see if we’d be a good fit for each other. You can learn more at http://www.loveandlaughterlifecoaching.com

Society’s Bad Advice About Dating


Society’s Bad Advice About Dating

by: Elizabeth Lewis

Life Coach/Relationship Coach/Author/Speaker

Book Title: First Date Next Mate: Perspectives in Dating the “Next” Time Around


Society gives us terrible advice about dating.

“It’s time to get out there! Start going on some dates!”

“Man, you’re dating a lot. Slow down!”

“It’ll happen when you quit looking.”

“Oh, my. He’s never been married? Hmmmm.”      **furrowed eyebrow**


Singles are dating with the pool of options they have in their area, at the time, in which they’re single. Yes, the world is our oyster but unless you have the time and money to travel the world meeting new people and/or don’t care how far you are from family/work/church, etc, you have only as far as you’re willing to go. Granted, some need to open that range of options but singles (especially single parents) still have boundaries and responsibilities of their current reality. The pool they have is the pool they’re in. If you’re single, are you out there swimming… or at least floating? (If you’re drowning… contact me!)

Everyone that is looking for a life partner (and not everyone is) needs to be engaging in all sorts of activities where singles might be—a single’s party, speed dating, dating online, church functions, saying yes to a variety of social activities/invitations (more examples in my book).

Society wants you to meet the old-fashioned way like bumping into someone in the grocery store or pure dumb luck. Singles would actually like that, too, but if it’s not happening, singles need to get better at educating society with what it’s like out there and the options available to us. You’ll probably hear loads of negative comments about dating whether off or online… but there is way more good than bad (if your mind sees things with the right perspective). We need to let go of limiting beliefs (mostly the limits we put in our brain ourselves or by listening to society) and remain open to what will happen. God gives us good men and women every day. We have the free will to choose them or not.

Why does society put pressure on the timeline for being single?

  • 37 and not married yet? Oh, that’s bad/sad for her.
  • Divorced for 15 years now? Something must be wrong with him/her!
  • Widowed and hasn’t remarried after 10+ years. Oh, he/she must be looking for someone like their deceased spouse (like that could happen).
  • He just got divorced a month ago and he’s already in a serious relationship!

Singles…. listen…. There is NOTHING wrong with you! Maybe there IS something wrong with all the negative things rumbling around in your head but you’ve put those thoughts there. They are not the truth. You “believe” those thoughts as truth and are looking for evidence of that truth (and those things are not even true)! You are a naturally creative, resourceful and whole human being that is learning different perspectives in dating. There is NO rule that says if you’re not married (or remarried) by (fill in length of time) you’re broken goods, unworthy, high maintenance, too old/fat/dumb/tall, etc or something surely must be wrong with you. The timeline is not the same for everyone because each has his/her own things to work through in his/her own time. The important thing is that you’re doing “the work.”

Society—there is nothing wrong with singles… each is figuring out his/her own needs and because dating is 90% timing… it’s just a different world out there (especially for “next” time arounders) and there is a lot to learn about it. The learning is in the dating. Everyone is worthy of love. So withhold judgment and build up your single friends. Include them in activities. Introduce them to YOUR other single friends. They’ll likely just be friends but through friends, they’ll meet new friends and have an engaging life!


So singles…stop listening to “Hurry up! Slow down! Take your time! Stop looking! Get online! Get offline already!” Wayne Dyer says all delays are beneficial. Keep an open heart attached to nothing and yes you WILL meet your forever partner at the right time and don’t listen to everyone else’s judgment of “Why are you still single?” Learn ways to be happy with YOU first and foremost. The rest will happen when it’s supposed to.

I am a Life Coach and work with a variety of people (ages 19-80). Many of my clients are single and I offer a Life, Love and Dating class (that meets every other Tuesday in Louisville, KY) If you’d like to join us, contact me on Facebook (Elizabeth Baughman Lewis). I also do one-on-one coaching with anyone (in the US). Single or not. I can coach you over the phone, Facetime, Skype, etc. Go to my website to learn more!


(I’ve also started a marriage/couples enrichment class for those of you dating or married!) Something for everyone!

Love is on the way to find you. BELIEVE it to be true!

Do YOU Want/Need a Life Coach?

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By: Elizabeth Lewis: Life Coach/Relationship Coach/Author/Speaker



I get asked all the time, “Exactly what do you do with your clients?” or “Why do people hire you?” So, I decided to write a blog about this. The reasons for coaching are as different as my clients, but the common theme is that people want to move forward in some way in life or relationships. They are already successful/whole people but they want more joy, less stress, more fulfillment, more accountability, want to get more organized and/or help improving or to enhance relationships (dating, a romance, a family member, friends, etc). Some people just like learning new and different ways of thinking so getting a coach enhances their way of growing and BEing.  As you move along in life, a great way to find out if you could benefit from working with me (or any Life Coach), is to take this quiz.

Answer yes or no to as many as pertain to where you are right now.

  1. Do you want more balance with work and home life?
  2. Do you need to think (and speak) more positively about yourself? About others? About life, in general?
  3. Would you like to move forward in a relationship?
    1. If you’re newly divorced, how to get whole first and know you’re ready before you navigate the dating world.
    2. If you’re dating, how to think about different perspectives in dating (especially if you’re dating the “next” time around). How to date off and online.
    3. If you’re in a relationship, how to keep moving forward.
    4. If you’re married, how to keep things positive and enriched?
  4. Do you need to be a more “On Purpose” Person throughout your day?
  5. Do you need to reorganize priorities after a big life event? (After retirement, empty nester, divorce, remarriage, etc.)
  6. Do you need to get more organized, de-clutter, find ways to get more energy?
  7. Do you need to strengthen your self-esteem, self-confidence or self-worth?
  8. Do you need more joy or happiness in your daily living?
  9. Do you need someone to keep you accountable with your goals and dreams? (With a little cheerleading to keep you pumped up!?)
  10. Would you like to be better at living in the present moment (and not in the past or future?)
  11. Would you like to improve your energy level, overall health and wellness through diet and exercise?
  12. Would you like to improve time management/ money management?
  13. Would you like to improve with parenting?
  14. Would you like a more spiritual life?
  15. Would you like to discover your passion and purpose?


If you answered YES to at least 3 of these, you could benefit GREATLY from hiring a life coach. If you choose me as your coach, I give a 15-min. free consultation to see if we’re a good fit for each other. If we are not, I have other life coaches to which I’d be happy to refer.


If you don’t live near me, no worries. I also coach over the phone, Skype or Facetime. You can still have a GREAT coaching experience over the phone.


I can coach anyone wanting to move forward in life; any age or stage in life. (I believe everyone needs a therapist and life coach. To learn the differences in the two, read to the end). My niche’ is working with people in any type of relationship. I LOVE my one-on-one clients because we can dive deep with events/thinking that pertains to THEM….


If you’d rather have a group experience, here are a few things I offer that you might want to take part….


  • I host a Life, Love and Dating class. This is for any category of singleness (meaning not married; whether you’re in or out of a relationship). We meet every other week (Tues.—summers and holidays off). 85% of the time we discuss dating perspectives/issues. The other 15% we talk about different life issues. This is organized 100% on Facebook. $5.00 per class.
  • I’m starting (Aug. 22) a class for couples (the group is called Connecting Couples). This is for married and engaged couples, as well as those in committed, serious relationship moving forward. Our 1st study will be Love and Respect and have that I have MANY other studies we’ll do. This is also organized on Facebook so let me know if you’d like me to add you. $5.00 per person per class.
  • SYMBIS Assessment– This is for engaged couples. A survey is administered individually to each person and I will unpack a 15-page report with the couple together. It’s excellent and worth the investment and discussion of each topic.


NEW: If you’re part of a SMALL business (<40 employees) and you’d like to provide coaching for your employees, email me and I’ll send you a proposal. I will throw in ONE FREE speaking engagement to the GROUP if you purchase coaching for your employees and mention this blog.

What are the general differences between therapy and coaching? I’m glad you asked. See if you now understand the difference?


  • Assumes the client needs healing.
  • Roots in medicine, psychiatry.
  • Works with people to achieve self-understanding and emotional healing.
  • Focuses on feelings and past events.
  • Explores the roots of problems.
  • Works to bring unconscious into conscious.
  • Works for internal resolution of pain to let go of old patterns.



  • Assumes the client is whole.
  • Roots in sports, work, family, business and personal growth venues.
  • Works to move people to a higher level of functioning/thinking.
  • Focuses on actions and the future.
  • Focuses on solving problems.
  • Works with the conscious mind.
  • Works for external solutions to overcome barriers, learn new skills and ways of thinking and implements effective choices.


So, there you have it. Lots to process and you can decide if it’s worth investing in yourself to hire a coach. All my clients have had positive experiences/outcomes. I LOVE my clients and classes.


To find out more, go to http://www.loveandlaughterlifecoaching.com

From my website, you can email, find me on social media!

I love meeting new clients. Even if you’re still not sure, give me a call and we can discuss? If you know of someone else looking for a life coach/relationship coach, feel free to pass this along to them.

Psalm 37:4-14 NIV

4 Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.

5 Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him and he will do this:

6 He will make your righteous reward shine like the dawn, your vindication like the noonday sun.

7 Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him; do not fret when people succeed in their ways, when they carry out their wicked schemes.

8 Refrain from anger and turn from wrath; do not fret—it leads only to evil.

9 For those who are evil will be destroyed, but those who hope in the LORD will inherit the land.

10 A little while, and the wicked will be no more; though you look for them, they will not be found.

11 But the meek will inherit the land and enjoy peace and prosperity.

12The wicked plot against the righteous and gnash their teeth at them;

13 but the Lord laughs at the wicked, for he knows their day is coming.

14 The wicked draw the sword and bend the bow to bring down the poor and needy, to slay those whose ways are upright.

How to Be More Successful in Life

pix-of-successHow to Be More Successful in Life

By: Elizabeth B. Lewis- Life Coach/ Dating Consultant/ Author/ Speaker


As many of you know, I read a lot and love to share what I’ve read and learned. I know my friends who work full time can’t read as much as they’d like, so when I read things I think would resonate with others, I like to write about it. These ideas don’t only come from me, but I’ll also credit Simon Somlai, John Maxwell, Tai Lopez and Stephen Covey.


LIFE—such a short time we are here. Most people try to find ways to be more successful in work, relationships, etc. Here is a list of 15 ways I’ve gathered (through my reading and own experiences), that I think make one more successful in life.

  1. READ and always be willing to learn. Once we get out of school, some are happy to never crack a book again…. but one MAJOR way to keep growing, is to read. There are so many great ideas/authors out there. We don’t just “arrive” after reading a certain number of books. When I worked full time I couldn’t find (or make) the time to read much. In retirement, I can’t read fast enough. I love the tidbits I’m learning (and sharing). I find ways to apply the ideas with which I resonate.
  2. Network- whether in business, the dating world or just a person who likes to meet new/interesting people—get out there, meet and share. You’ll meet people that will add value to YOUR life; and you to THEIRS. We are all here on this earth in this small space at the same time. Why not meet (and help) as many as we can while we’re here?
  3. Make goals- a dear friend taught me to actually write down about 10 goals a year. It’s OK if you don’t master/accomplish them all (don’t beat yourself up over it) but you’re at least striving to hit them all. Each year I make 10 goals and accomplish 8-9 of them. They’re attainable and are focused on how I can help others, as well as my family and business.
  4. Get out of debt- if you’re out of debt, manage your resources well. No matter how much money we have, we are still to be good stewards of it. Don’t overspend. Live within (or below) your means. Don’t forget to give a portion away (a tithe, a charitable donation, etc).
  5. Wake up a little earlier each day. In 2014 the life expectancy was 78.6 years. We spend 25 years of that sleeping! If you awoke 1 hour earlier each day, that’s 365 extra hours which equals an extra 2 weeks per year. Maybe use that hour for personal development (devotional, reading, meditating, or exercising).
  6. Prioritize and plan- Look at your day and do the most important thing first. It’s crazy that the more we have to do, the more we accomplish. But it’s true. Make your list and git-r-dun.
  7. Diet and exercise – successful people are conscious about refueling their bodies with the food it needs. Exercise comes in all forms and as busy as successful people are, they seem to find a way to include at least a little exercise.
  8. Visualization- there are many books and videos about this.
    Raise your frequency to positive thoughts as well as visualizing where you want to go. However you perceive yourself sets the state for your accomplishments.
  9. Sharpen your character- can we always improve here? Of course. Some earnestly improve while others talk a big talk. Our actions speak louder than our words. Set for yourself a list of standards that are important to you. Then figure out ways to LIVE these standards without wavering. Maybe find an accountability partner to help you (you can help your partner, as well) stay the course.
  10. Gratitude- I’ve written a whole blog on this one before. (Scroll down the page to find it). Those who truly live in the state of gratitude (however they so choose to practice this) are truly happier. You can’t live in self-pity while being grateful.
  11. Lift others up and add VALUE to people. This is what John Maxwell teaches in his book Intentional Living (Choosing a Life that Matters). My way of taking action with this is I have a reminder in my phone that goes off at 7:30 am that says, “Who can I add value to today?” At 9:00 p.m. I have another reminder that says, “How did I add value to others today.” This just makes me more intentional about thinking about how I can help others. Think of ways YOU can add value to others.
  12. Habit Stacking- this idea comes from Simon Somlai. Habit Stacking is the process of incrementally implementing new, powerful habits in your day-to-day life. These daily, high-leverage tasks will “stack up” over time which will in turn improve your “success-level.” (Habits like reading, networking, goal setting, serving, etc).
  13. Get a mentor. Mentors will encourage and accelerate your learning curve. Included can be books, seminars or a real life person. Tai Lopez talks about the law of 33%, which states that you should spend;
    1. 1/3 of your time with people below your level (the ones you mentor)
    2. 1/3 of your time with people on your level (close friends)
    3. 1/3 of your time with people above your level (mentors)

Maybe make a list of these people in your life and see how you’re doing with this.

  1. Spend time wisely. How often have you been on Facebook, a dating site, watching TV or playing a game and you look up and realize 2 hours have passed? That’s time you’ll never get back! Even adults have to put boundaries around our time to be more productive.
  2. Last, imagine your funeral. Stephen Covey gives us a great reminder.


In your mind’s eye, see yourself going to the funeral of a loved one. Picture yourself driving to the funeral parlor or chapel, parking the car, and getting out. As you walk inside the building, you notice the flowers, the soft organ music. You see the faces of friends and family you pass along the way. You feel the shared sorrow of losing, the joy of having known, that radiates from the hearts of the people there.

 As you walk down to the front of the room and look inside the casket, you suddenly come face to face with yourself. This is your funeral, three years from today. All these people have come to honor you, to express feelings of love and appreciation for your life.

 As you take a seat and wait for the services to begin, you look at the program in your hand. There are to be four speakers. The first is from your family, immediate and also extended —children, brothers, sisters, nephews, nieces, aunts, uncles, cousins, and grandparents who have come from all over the country to attend. The second speaker is one of your friends, someone who can give a sense of what you were as a person. The third speaker is from your work or profession. And the fourth is from your church or some community organization where you’ve been involved in service.

 Now think deeply. What would you like each of these speakers to say about you and your life? What kind of husband, wife, father, or mother would like their words to reflect? What kind of son or daughter or cousin? What kind of friend? What kind of working associate?

 What character would you like them to have seen in you? What contributions, what achievements would you want them to remember? Look carefully at the people around you. What difference would you like to have made in their lives? – 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

So, it’s good to every so often reflect and evaluate how you’re doing in this thing called life. Again, we’re only here for a VERY, VERY short time. We need to use all the talents we have been given (because God doesn’t need them in Heaven). Go forth, figure out your passions… and talents… and live your life to the fullest… engage.

** If you find you’d like a life coach to help you figure this out, check out my packages on my website and find one that fits you and your needs. http://www.loveandlaughterlifecoaching.com

How I Wrote My 1st Book


How I Wrote My 1st Book

By: Elizabeth Lewis, Life Coach/Dating Consultant/Author/Speaker


*Picture is not actual book cover. We are working on that now. This is a sample.

First Date Next Mate (Perspectives in Dating the “Next” Time Around)

This is the title of my book. My first book. The information flowed out of me very quickly. I read for 2 hours a day and wrote for 3-5 hours a day, 6 days a week. I made this my full time job for 3.5 months. Because I didn’t have to do any extensive research…. I finished quickly.

I love to share what I learn. Whether you agree with the information or not, it’s fun to challenge your thinking and compare that with your experience, listen to different perspectives; embracing the ones that resonate with you and discarding the rest. Since I’ve retired (2014), and became a Life Coach/Dating Consultant (2014), I’ve read about 49 books about dating/relationships/love and about 36 books about coaching, spiritual matters, leadership, life and happiness (and I’m reading about 4-5 presently). For those who don’t know me, I’m a widow and didn’t choose to be single. I was amazed at how different dating was the 2nd time around. My book is filled with all that I’ve learned from reading these books, personal experience with dating the “next” time around, sermons heard, blogs read, experts interviewed on my radio show (Fall 2015), videos watched, and talking to thousands of singles/clients over the last 8 years.

Over half of America is divorced and single again. That’s a pretty big audience. This book answers basic “must knows” about the dating world the “next” time around (meaning divorced, widowed, 30+ and never married). It’s an easy-to-read book packed full of do’s, don’ts, pros and cons, and answers your pertinent questions about starting over in the single’s world. It will cover online and offline dating, different perspectives in dating and even teach you how to start a single’s group, if you’d like to do the same.

Mark your calendars for my Book Launch—October 12 at The Brick House. I’m also working on a Book Signing/Cocktail Party in Louisville for October 13 (location TBD). I’ll also go to Cincinnati, Lexington, Nashville, Chicago, Indianapolis (and any other location that requests) to either speak and/or hosting Book Signings/Cocktail Parties. I’ll send press releases to appear on TV shows and radio shows. Why not? All they can do is say no?? I hope you’ll come out and support my book publishing adventure! (If you’re married, you can buy one for a divorced/widowed friend? All are welcome). Watch Social Media for Book Launch details.


Other book details: This will be available on Amazon, Create Space, Barnes & Noble, Kindle, Apple iBooks, Google Play and Kobo.


$15.99 in paperback

$14.99 if you buy it from me personally! Yes, I’d love to sign it for you!

$8.99 in iBook

I’ll end with this funny, playful, rhyming words summary about First Date Next Mate that I did not use in any of my marketing…. but it was fun to write.

It’s not too late, to find your next mate – reinstate love; not hate. Don’t compensate, regulate or quantitate your next date.  It’s important to participate with a good state (of mind) as you rate and evaluate, while you wait on your next mate of fate. You may meet be a classmate, a cheapskate, deadweight, roommate, playmate or blind date. Whether overweight, middle weight or underweight…. don’t make a mistake. Migrate toward just going on a great date without the irate evaluate. There’s lots to debate if you frustrate, so look at the great traits. Can you relate? Does this resonate? Oh, for heaven’s sake!

Hopefully this book will help you

  • Evaluate your dating state
  • Educate you about the single’s world
  • Motivate you to move forward
  • Integrate your thinking with your values
  • Create the best you
  • Increase your heart rate for love
  • Communicate different perspectives in dating
  • Activate what’s in you already
  • Radiate the TRUE you
  • Incorporate new ideas
  • Acclimate you to the single’s world
  • Calculate better decisions
  • Navigate off or online dating

Hopefully this book will not;

  • Frustrate
  • Fumigate
  • Irritate
  • Suffocate
  • Commiserate
  • Mandate any hard truths
  • Make you hibernate

Thanks to all those who have supported me in this endeavor (and for my father for helping me proofread!)

If you know of a group of singles in your area that would like to book me for speaking and/or a book signing/cocktail party, reach out to me at www.loveandlaughterlifecoaching.com.