25 Things We Need to Do/Think About After Turning 50    by: Elizabeth Lewis

25 Things We Need to Do/Think About After Turning 50 by: Elizabeth Lewis

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25 Things We Need to Do/Think About After Turning 50

by: Elizabeth Lewis

Life Coach/Relationship Coach/Author/Speaker


After turning 50, many start reflecting on their lives. Looking from where they came (all the mistakes, lessons, successes) and knowing that we now have less time to live than we’ve already lived. I thought I’d share some ideas I’ve thought about (some of these would apply to any age but even a better reflection on the 2nd half of life).


  1. If you stopped learning today, who would you want to be more like the rest of your life?
  2. Are you living “on purpose?” If not, it’s not too late. Examine your daily activities and see how many hours are on purpose. If you have too many things on your plate, maybe hire a life coach to help guide you through this process.
  3. Be thinking about your “encore” career—the “for fun” job you want to do in retirement. Start brainstorming ideas of what that might be.
  4. Let go of things that don’t “connect” to your life purpose? (Are you living your life purpose). Life purpose is different than living on purpose. Living on purpose is making your hours matter during the day ensuring you’re doing the things that are important to you. Living your life purpose is doing what you know God put you on Earth to do.
  5. Keep reading and learning! Fill your brain with new information and positive ways of thinking.
  6. Stop looking for ways to be offended. Let people be who they are and you be who you are. It’s no reflection on you.
  7. Think a little (or a lot) less about yourself and more about others.
  8. Bring kindness back and be the example of how to be kind always. None of us is perfect but to be a little more like Jesus every day is a good idea. Wayne Dyer said, “Research has shown that a simple act of kindness directed toward another improves the functioning of the immune system and stimulates the production of serotonin in both the recipient of the kindness and the person extending the kindness. Even more amazing is that persons observing the act of kindness have similar beneficial results. Imagine this! Kindness extended, received or observed beneficially impacts the health and feelings of everyone involved! “
  9. If someone doesn’t like you, this has NOTHING to do with you. As long as you are doing your best to stay aligned with your Source and what you know if good and right for you, that’s what you have control.
  10. Make goals yearly—hit as many as you can—live intentionally.
  11. Comparison (at any age) kills contentment. Stop comparing!
  12. Take the lessons learned from past mistakes—wrap words around shame (if you’re feeling shame) and today is a new day to be a better YOU! Seriously, whatever you put in your brain WILL be what will happen to you. Whether you’re aware of it or not. So be aware what you’re feeding it. Feed it with goodness and positivity. If negativity creeps in, flip the switch and turn it into a positive. Is it easy to do? Yes. Is it easy not to do? Yes. Which will you choose?
  13. Keep engaging in REAL life. Step away from social media/computer and keep engaging with others. Life experiences and laughter cures a lot of ailments.
  14. Who was your mentor when you were 20, 30, 40? Now, who can YOU mentor and pour your wisdom into?
  15. With now adult children, how can you/we be the best supporter? We can still be a good example to them as we live our lives, but we no longer have control of theirs. Remain curious—still walk beside them and you can still be a safe place to fall (when they fall). They will fall because we all fall. Love them through it (instead of lecturing them through it).
  16. Health—we DO all know we’re going to die, right? Maybe tomorrow. Maybe in 50 years. I think we sometimes forget this because we’re shocked when someone dies. But we don’t always think about how every morsel of food and every drop of liquid we put in our bodies matters. “But it’s a special occasion?!” There always seems to be a “special” occasion to eat (or drink) poorly. Heck…. Every day is a special occasion because we are still here! Hard to do? Yes. Easy to do? Yes. Make a slight change.
  17. Speaking of dying…. Since we all know that none of us get out of here alive, most know to keep up with doctor checkups, annual exams, etc. But it’s a good idea to remind/encourage this. Some live in fear of the unknown and they’d rather not know there is cancer or something looming around in their bodies… but there are just too many medical advancements out there to be afraid… SO much can be done. I know sometimes nothing can be done. A blood clot, aneurysm, sudden wrecks, etc…. but we can all do our part of doing the preventative care we know to do. The older we get, the more we need to stay on top of this. Get an accountability partner?
  18. How much intentional quiet time do you allow yourself? Intentional SILENCE? I’m not talking about when you’re in the shower or driving alone (although if that’s all you can allow that’s better than nothing). You can’t know the meaning of your life until you are connected to the power that created you. Another Dyer thought (who is a big proponent of meditation). “Meditation is the only way you can grow. There is no other way out. Because when you meditate, you are in silence. You are in thoughtless awareness. Then the growth of awareness takes place.” (This is one thing I need to start doing more).
  19. Judgment…. have we not learned by now that judgment is not a good thing? It lowers our spirit/energy and many times reflects who WE are on the inside. Be unattached to all who come into your life by not demanding that they stay, go, or appear, at your whim. Let other people be who they are. You be who you are. No need to judge them as right or wrong.
  20. I’ve written/spoken about this one before. We are the average of the 5 people we are around the most. Who do you spend the most time with? If you want to be a better you, make sure some of those people are those you’d like to be more like. Tai Lopez talks about the law of 33%, which states that you should spend;

1/3 of your time with people below your level (the ones you mentor)

1/3 of your time with people on your level (close friends)

1/3 of your time with people above your level (mentors)

Maybe make a list of these people in your life and see how you’re doing with this.

  1. Look for ways to add value to others…. EVERY DAY! How will you remember to do this? I put a reminder on my phone at 9:00 a.m. that says, “How will you add value today?” AND at the end of the day at 9:00 p.m. that says, “How did you add value today?” This alone makes me REMEMBER to be thinking about how I can add value to others every day!
  2. If you have 5-7 speakers speak at your funeral (someone from every facet of your life), what would you want them to say about you? Start doing THOSE things (or get back to those things that you know are truest about you).
  3. If you’re still in debt…. Get out of debt- if you’re out of debt, manage your resources well. No matter how much money we have, we are still to be good stewards of it. Don’t overspend. Live within (or below) your means. Don’t forget to give a portion away (a tithe, a charitable donation, etc).
  4. Whatever you are giving away— IS what you’re getting back. Any thought of depreciation you have weakened yourself in some form…. lowered your energy. If you can figure out a way to change this thought to appreciation you will raise your energy. When you can do that, you’re making more conscious contact w God. Then you can access it more readily.
  5. If you still have GOD questions, it’s never too late to explore this a little more. Maybe you had a bad church experience? All churches are not bad. (Most are filled with sinners and broken people who just want to be better). Maybe you had a life event knock you down and you couldn’t see or feel God? (So you started doubting). Maybe you were not raised in the church and you just never explored beyond that in adulthood? Maybe it’s overwhelming and too vast to comprehend (I can see why one might feel that way). Wherever you are… there are SO many people that you can talk to to explore this. You WILL die and your soul WILL go somewhere. If you don’t know where it’ll go, worth talking to someone about it? (My opinion, of course).


If you’d like to explore any of these thoughts any further, I’d be happy to be your life coach. I give a 15 min. free consultation to see if we’d be a good fit for each other. You can learn more at http://www.loveandlaughterlifecoaching.com

Society’s Bad Advice About Dating


Society’s Bad Advice About Dating

by: Elizabeth Lewis

Life Coach/Relationship Coach/Author/Speaker

Book Title: First Date Next Mate: Perspectives in Dating the “Next” Time Around


Society gives us terrible advice about dating.

“It’s time to get out there! Start going on some dates!”

“Man, you’re dating a lot. Slow down!”

“It’ll happen when you quit looking.”

“Oh, my. He’s never been married? Hmmmm.”      **furrowed eyebrow**


Singles are dating with the pool of options they have in their area, at the time, in which they’re single. Yes, the world is our oyster but unless you have the time and money to travel the world meeting new people and/or don’t care how far you are from family/work/church, etc, you have only as far as you’re willing to go. Granted, some need to open that range of options but singles (especially single parents) still have boundaries and responsibilities of their current reality. The pool they have is the pool they’re in. If you’re single, are you out there swimming… or at least floating? (If you’re drowning… contact me!)

Everyone that is looking for a life partner (and not everyone is) needs to be engaging in all sorts of activities where singles might be—a single’s party, speed dating, dating online, church functions, saying yes to a variety of social activities/invitations (more examples in my book).

Society wants you to meet the old-fashioned way like bumping into someone in the grocery store or pure dumb luck. Singles would actually like that, too, but if it’s not happening, singles need to get better at educating society with what it’s like out there and the options available to us. You’ll probably hear loads of negative comments about dating whether off or online… but there is way more good than bad (if your mind sees things with the right perspective). We need to let go of limiting beliefs (mostly the limits we put in our brain ourselves or by listening to society) and remain open to what will happen. God gives us good men and women every day. We have the free will to choose them or not.

Why does society put pressure on the timeline for being single?

  • 37 and not married yet? Oh, that’s bad/sad for her.
  • Divorced for 15 years now? Something must be wrong with him/her!
  • Widowed and hasn’t remarried after 10+ years. Oh, he/she must be looking for someone like their deceased spouse (like that could happen).
  • He just got divorced a month ago and he’s already in a serious relationship!

Singles…. listen…. There is NOTHING wrong with you! Maybe there IS something wrong with all the negative things rumbling around in your head but you’ve put those thoughts there. They are not the truth. You “believe” those thoughts as truth and are looking for evidence of that truth (and those things are not even true)! You are a naturally creative, resourceful and whole human being that is learning different perspectives in dating. There is NO rule that says if you’re not married (or remarried) by (fill in length of time) you’re broken goods, unworthy, high maintenance, too old/fat/dumb/tall, etc or something surely must be wrong with you. The timeline is not the same for everyone because each has his/her own things to work through in his/her own time. The important thing is that you’re doing “the work.”

Society—there is nothing wrong with singles… each is figuring out his/her own needs and because dating is 90% timing… it’s just a different world out there (especially for “next” time arounders) and there is a lot to learn about it. The learning is in the dating. Everyone is worthy of love. So withhold judgment and build up your single friends. Include them in activities. Introduce them to YOUR other single friends. They’ll likely just be friends but through friends, they’ll meet new friends and have an engaging life!


So singles…stop listening to “Hurry up! Slow down! Take your time! Stop looking! Get online! Get offline already!” Wayne Dyer says all delays are beneficial. Keep an open heart attached to nothing and yes you WILL meet your forever partner at the right time and don’t listen to everyone else’s judgment of “Why are you still single?” Learn ways to be happy with YOU first and foremost. The rest will happen when it’s supposed to.

I am a Life Coach and work with a variety of people (ages 19-80). Many of my clients are single and I offer a Life, Love and Dating class (that meets every other Tuesday in Louisville, KY) If you’d like to join us, contact me on Facebook (Elizabeth Baughman Lewis). I also do one-on-one coaching with anyone (in the US). Single or not. I can coach you over the phone, Facetime, Skype, etc. Go to my website to learn more!


(I’ve also started a marriage/couples enrichment class for those of you dating or married!) Something for everyone!

Love is on the way to find you. BELIEVE it to be true!