How I Wrote My 1st Book


How I Wrote My 1st Book

By: Elizabeth Lewis, Life Coach/Dating Consultant/Author/Speaker

*Picture is not actual book cover. We are working on that now. This is a sample.

First Date Next Mate (Perspectives in Dating the “Next” Time Around)

This is the title of my book. My first book. The information flowed out of me very quickly. I read for 2 hours a day and wrote for 3-5 hours a day, 6 days a week. I made this my full time job for 3.5 months. Because I didn’t have to do any extensive research…. I finished quickly.

I love to share what I learn. Whether you agree with the information or not, it’s fun to challenge your thinking and compare that with your experience, listen to different perspectives; embracing the ones that resonate with you and discarding the rest. Since I’ve retired (2014), and became a Life Coach/Dating Consultant (2014), I’ve read about 49 books about dating/relationships/love and about 36 books about coaching, spiritual matters, leadership, life and happiness (and I’m reading about 4-5 presently). For those who don’t know me, I’m a widow and didn’t choose to be single. I was amazed at how different dating was the 2nd time around. My book is filled with all that I’ve learned from reading these books, personal experience with dating the “next” time around, sermons heard, blogs read, experts interviewed on my radio show (Fall 2015), videos watched, and talking to thousands of singles/clients over the last 8 years.

Over half of America is divorced and single again. That’s a pretty big audience. This book answers basic “must knows” about the dating world the “next” time around (meaning divorced, widowed, 30+ and never married). It’s an easy-to-read book packed full of do’s, don’ts, pros and cons, and answers your pertinent questions about starting over in the single’s world. It will cover online and offline dating, different perspectives in dating and even teach you how to start a single’s group, if you’d like to do the same.

Mark your calendars for my Book Launch—October 12 at The Brick House. I’m also working on a Book Signing/Cocktail Party in Louisville for October 13 (location TBD). I’ll also go to Cincinnati, Lexington, Nashville, Chicago, Indianapolis (and any other location that requests) to either speak and/or hosting Book Signings/Cocktail Parties. I’ll send press releases to appear on TV shows and radio shows. Why not? All they can do is say no?? I hope you’ll come out and support my book publishing adventure! (If you’re married, you can buy one for a divorced/widowed friend? All are welcome). Watch Social Media for Book Launch details.


Other book details: This will be available on Amazon, Create Space, Barnes & Noble, Kindle, Apple iBooks, Google Play and Kobo.


$15.99 in paperback

$14.99 if you buy it from me personally! Yes, I’d love to sign it for you!

$8.99 in iBook

I’ll end with this funny, playful, rhyming words summary about First Date Next Mate that I did not use in any of my marketing…. but it was fun to write.

It’s not too late, to find your next mate – reinstate love; not hate. Don’t compensate, regulate or quantitate your next date.  It’s important to participate with a good state (of mind) as you rate and evaluate, while you wait on your next mate of fate. You may meet be a classmate, a cheapskate, deadweight, roommate, playmate or blind date. Whether overweight, middle weight or underweight…. don’t make a mistake. Migrate toward just going on a great date without the irate evaluate. There’s lots to debate if you frustrate, so look at the great traits. Can you relate? Does this resonate? Oh, for heaven’s sake!

Hopefully this book will help you

  • Evaluate your dating state
  • Educate you about the single’s world
  • Motivate you to move forward
  • Integrate your thinking with your values
  • Create the best you
  • Increase your heart rate for love
  • Communicate different perspectives in dating
  • Activate what’s in you already
  • Radiate the TRUE you
  • Incorporate new ideas
  • Acclimate you to the single’s world
  • Calculate better decisions
  • Navigate off or online dating

Hopefully this book will not;

  • Frustrate
  • Fumigate
  • Irritate
  • Suffocate
  • Commiserate
  • Mandate any hard truths
  • Make you hibernate

Thanks to all those who have supported me in this endeavor (and for my father for helping me proofread!)

If you know of a group of singles in your area that would like to book me for speaking and/or a book signing/cocktail party, reach out to me at