God and Your Life Purpose
By: Elizabeth B. Lewis, Life Coach/Dating Consultant/Author/Speaker
This is a risky blog because I’m going to talk about God. WAIT! Don’t stop reading yet. I know everyone does not have a faith and many are skeptical about God. WAIT! Read a little further. Some reading this might immediately swipe right and move to the next email, Facebook post, text. WAIT! Maybe you can glean something new from this and skip over the God talk. But…..why is that? Why do we sometimes turn off listening when God is mentioned? I think it might come from a bad childhood experience with church. OR as adults we see so many hypocritical people who claim to be “Christian” and then see other actions so our response is to rebuke God. Or maybe you heard someone say something critical about God and you said, “Yeah. I think I feel that way, too.” (When really you’re not sure, but it was just easier to believe what someone else believes). Or we are filled with “WHY” questions hoping God will answer and we don’t see or hear evidence of our asking. So we kind of put God on a back burner. I mean, you know He’s there for an emergency. And well….. you believe and all. But that’s about as far as it goes. There’s no real relationship and the questions are too many and overwhelming to explore it all. So much of it just doesn’t make sense. I mean, who has time, really? Right? (BTW- there’s no judgement with where you are—just an observation and a wondering I have). If you’re agnostic or an atheist—and you’re still with me. Keep reading.
I have a million thoughts running through my head about this and decided to just sit down and start writing about it. I‘ve been reading a book by Max Lucado called The Cure for the Common Life. Many thoughts stream from the reading of this book and will quote some of his work and mix it with my thoughts. (I highly recommend this book).
1 Corinthians 12:7 MSG says, “Each person is given something to do that shows who God is.” I ask myself… Am I doing this with my new career? I know I did with my last career. I feel like I am with this career but can I do more? Of course I can! How can I honor God with my next life adventure? Why is talking about spiritual things and God scary or risky for us? Even sometimes for me (and I consider myself a very spiritual person and am a leader in my church). I think it’s partly from fear that others may see us as a “Jesus freak.” Or maybe because we make human mistakes and others will point fingers and judge our actions. So we’d best not talk about our faith for fear of ridicule and harsh judgements. We think it’s best to “play it safe.” I’m not a Bible thumper and can’t quote you scripture (that’s just not my gift) but my faith is important to me. I truly try to be a better person every day and more like Jesus. Do I fail? I do. All the time. But I won’t quit trying. I DO have gifts of connecting others. Teaching. Motivating. Communicating. Organizing. Accepting. Loving. Full of positive energy. Etc. I need to use my own uniqueness to make a bigger deal about God. Every day. No matter my career.
Are you living your God given purpose? Max says, “Don’t worry about skills you don’t have. Don’t covet strengths others do have. Just extract your uniqueness.” All that we have belongs to Him. How are we giving back? Do you need to make a bigger deal about God? It’s a deep question I know, but I think it’s a good one to ask/examine.
As a Life Coach, clients ask, “How do I find my life purpose? What IS my life purpose?” It’s not something I can answer for them, but I do coach them by asking questions that makes them think about what it might be? I help them to overcome the gremlins in their heads and overcome shame so they can look through a different lens of what might be possible for them. (Yes, I’m not just a dating consultant. I DO have married folks, young and old, who seek and hire a life coach). J
I’ve been thinking lately about my next life adventure. I taught for 27 years (loved that career). Reared two amazing kids (definitely loved that job the best). I organize the largest single’s group in Louisville (fun friends and activities). I’m now a Life Coach/ Dating Consultant (love this career). I did a 13 week radio show (that was different and challenging). I host a Life, Love and Dating class every week (Love that group of people). I just wrote a book to help other singles dating again the “next” time around (it’s not out yet but excited for when it does come out). Now what???? In church a few weeks ago, as my head was bowed…. I felt something BUBBLING inside of me. I don’t know what it was. I just know I felt it. Like little butterflies tickling my stomach, inside my heart and on my lungs when I took a breath. That feeling starting leaking out of my eyes! I’m still not sure what it is. But it was there. Because of that, I’m listening; remaining open to what “it” could be. I realized there are two places I cry the most. For sure in church. Partly from being so grateful and so happy with where I am in my life and sometimes when memories of the past leak out onto my cheeks. Sometimes I’m just humbled. The other time is when I fall to my knees to pray. I don’t know what it is. There’s something about going to your knees. Have you tried that? Try it! See if you feel anything different?! It’s definitely humbling.
“You were born prepacked. God looked at your entire life, determined your assignment, and gave you the tools to do the job. No one wants to live out of someone else’s bag. Then why do we? Odds are, someone has urged a force fit into clothes not packed for you. You can do something no one else can do in a fashion no one else can do it,” said Max.
This book has made me think about so many things. I still feel something “BUBBLING” inside me. Do you feel something bubbling inside you? Do you need to go sit in a church, or a quiet place or fall to your knees and listen? Do you need to remain/become curious? Do you need to have a conversation with someone who will help you process? Do you need to be bold and rediscover more about God and what He meant for your life? You know, it’s okay to believe in God. It’s okay to even talk about it. It’s okay to question and not know all the answers. (I certainly don’t have all the answers). It’s not so okay to shove it down someone’s throat and try to make them believe the way you do. It’s not okay to judge others with where they are in their journey. It’s not okay to just blow it off and hope these wonderings about life will just go away. Maybe, just maybe God can help us navigate these life questions through conversations with others? Or reading? Or praying Or going to church? Maybe, just maybe God is eager to have more of a relationship with us? Maybe, just maybe we need to reexamine our belief system and take more accountability for it? Maybe, just maybe we need to figure out our life purpose and make sure we’re living with the gifts/tools we were given.
“God packed you on purpose. For a purpose.” (Max Lucado) What is your purpose? If you’re already living it—mentor someone else in your field and step it up when you can. If not, remain open and curious until you feel something bubbling inside of you!
BOOK UPDATE: All my edits are complete. It’ll hopefully be out in September. If you’d like me to speak and/or have a book signing in your city, please email me. Stay tuned here, on my website and/or on Facebook. Title: First Date Next Mate (Perspectives in Dating the “Next” Time Around).