Resolutions or Goals? by: Elizabeth Lewis
Resolutions, huh? Do you make them? Keep them? Maybe you think this year, “I’m going to do this!” I’ve said it and heard it a thousand times.
I learned from a great friend to instead of making resolutions… make GOALS. Yearly goals. If you don’t hit them all, you don’t beat yourself up but you at least try and have something in which to strive. You can make them personal, professional, spiritual, parental, etc. Here are some ideas we could all add to our lists…..
- Be more kind to everyone you come in contact. Sometimes this is harder than you think. When someone is mean to you, it’s hard to kill them with kindness…. But when you do, it makes you feel better. Maybe a goal of saying 1 kind thing to someone NEW each day would be a good goal?
- Love yourself more. Women are famous for talking about all the body parts we don’t like (bellies, butt, boobs, legs, hair). Men, too– (losing hair, weight gain, look older). If you don’t like a feature, do what you can to change it. Truly, no one cares what you look like, anyway…..they care more about #1.
- Look for more opportunities to serve. There are ALWAYS opportunities to serve, but how many of us seize them? If you’re not sure where to look, try asking at your church (I assume there are MANY ways to serve there). Help a neighbor, a widow in need, a single mom with repairs, or an elderly man with mowing his lawn, help serve the homeless (I know of a few groups that do this weekly. I can connect you!). Thousands of ways we can serve. Maybe make a goal of 1 service project a month. Make it a family affair. Children who observe their parents serving become servants. If you’re lonely, get out of the house and serve.
- Do a better job of making boundaries. This can be in a friendship, with a family member or in a dating relationship. Gain more respect for yourself by drawing the line where you feel most comfortable. If they, in turn, respect you, your boundary will be honored.
- Read more books. We don’t have a problem reading social media for an hour or more each day. But what about a book that can pour knowledge/ enjoyment into your head? Whether this is fiction or non-fiction….. Both are stimulating, helps with stress, improves vocabulary and keeps your mind sharp. (I’m proud of my college-age son who has a goal of reading 1 book a month- on top of 19 hrs in college and running a business). This will take discipline and organization.
- Smiles are contagious. Smile more! When you make eye contact with someone, smile and say hi. I bet they’ll smile and say hi back.
- Pay it Forward. You hear about the person who pays the bill for the car behind them in the McDonalds line. Do that! Or think of another creative idea. Find ways to help others, expecting nothing in return. It will make you feel SOOOO good.
- I bet we all could think of a goal related to our cell phones. What is it for you? Maybe not checking it during a meeting or on a date, don’t text and drive, no texting at the dinner table, no more “serious conversations” over text. The list goes on. While cell phones are important to have these days, if we let it, they can get us in trouble.
- One Line a Day- a gift I gave family this year was a book called, “One Line a Day.” At the end of each day, write down one interesting fact, motivational saying, Bible verse that spoke to you, a lesson learned or just something for which you’re grateful. A journal is sometimes too time-consuming so many don’t do that anymore. But we can always write 1 line a day, right? At the end of the year, you’ll have a snippet of your year and when you’re gone from this Earth, there might be some wisdom in there for your kids/ family??? Neat idea.
- Make a list of all the things important to you. Whatever is on that list, compare that to your calendar (and/or checkbook) and see if you’re actually DOING the things that you claim are important??? Sometimes we SAY family is important, or hanging with a certain friend, or going to church….but how often do you actually DO these? So reflect on what’s important to you and find more ways to do THOSE things.
There’s something neat about saying goodbye to one year and starting a new one. I hope this new year is the new beginning you need – make it a great year—on purpose!!
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